Reading about child development years ago, I found a metaphor to help explain perceived set-backs in child behavior. Imagine a house of cards made with six cards. Each card represents something a child has learned. Let’s say the first card represents learning how to say “sorry” and the second card represents learning how to put away their toys. This child’s house of cards took years to build and both child and parent proud! Then. Tantrum. Tantrum. Tantrum. The child will not put away his toys or say “sorry.” The house of cards collapses.
In a month or two or six, the child returns to improved behaviors. Not only do they put away their toys and say they are sorry, they offer to share their toys with others and say “please.” The child has rebuilt their house of cards, to include more cards which make the house bigger and stronger. In this way, the collapse of the house of cards can be reframed as a precursor to growth and maturity.
It’s not only children who build with cards. Teens and adults have accumulated thousands of cards, building and building until one day, the house collapses. Collapse may be brought on by something obvious like a tragedy or emotionally hitting bottom. Sometimes, life simply provides “aha” moments or a sudden desire to strive for a goal. I have a goal.
Within the year I want to formalize my work as a life and family coach. With the spirit of an entrepreneur, I want to set up my own shop, much of which will be online. I’ve knocked my work related house of cards down and now I’m rebuilding.
Transitions are bumpy. I want to improve this blog and integrate it better into my broad love for social media as well as my future work. It has been several months since I went active with this blog and I’m grateful to say that I’m here to stay. Thank you for providing an environment of courtesy, thoughtfulness, and fun! So, I’m knocking down this blog and only want to keep what works best for you and me. Your suggestions to this end are always welcome.
What to you find most helpful an enjoyable about your favorite blogs? What things turn you away from blogs? If you are a blogger, what is your favorite insight or improvement that you’ve made to your blog?
Thank you for your help, encouragement, and loyalty. ~~~~~~~~ Angie Mc