Don’t fake sick. That’s what I told my son, JP, right before I read, 10 Behaviors of Genuine People. I took his temperature, told him it was low-grade, and encouraged him to rest. I reminded him that his puppy eyes and pouty bottom lip were unnecessary which made us both laugh.
After reading the article, I couldn’t resist to put myself, my son, and the article proposals to the test. Are we genuine?
They don’t seek attention. JP wanted attention and added the flare of pouting in an attempt to win the privilege of laying on the couch and watching a movie instead of doing his chores. I don’t seek attention, being more of a background make-it-happen kind of gal. But being a strong extrovert, I do love to engage with others which may appear to be attention seeking.
They’re not concerned about being liked. JP wasn’t trying to be liked as much as pitied, in a boo-boo kitty sort of way. I like being liked but I don’t need to be. Sometimes my “nice lady” appearance does confuse people into assuming, “pushover.” Um, no.
They can tell when others are full of it. JP and I both knew he was (a little) full of it. As the mom of four, it’s practically my job to point out endless BS.
They are comfortable in their own skin. JP is so comfortable in his skin that he plays around in it and stretches it all the time. I’ve needed to work to become comfortable in mine. Is this where I crack a bad joke about my current skin being a little too comfortable, like an old pair of jeans? 😀
They do what they say and say what they mean. My son is a typical kid who needs my help to say, for example, “I will take out the garbage.” Then he needs me to hold him accountable for actually taking out the garbage. I’m inclined to over-promise so I’m working on making fewer, but keeping the promises I make.
They don’t need a lot of stuff. JP just wanted a couch and a movie. He’s a cheap date and so am I, in a good way.
They’re not thin-skinned. Oh, my, we’re thick-skinned to the point of appearing insensitive sometimes.
They’re not overly modest or boastful. In private, our family leans towards the, ahem, boastful end of the continuum. In public, we aim for humble. Personally, I tolerate bravado better than false modesty.
They’re consistent. We’re predictable in (mostly) a good way.
They practice what they preach. To paraphrase St. Francis, preach always, when necessary use words. Here’s my favorite line from the article, “…genuine people know they’re no better than anyone else so it’s not in their nature to be self-righteous.” This.
Do you find these 10 behaviors to be indicative of being genuine? Are you genuine? Who is the most genuine person you know? What helps people to be genuine? What undermines genuineness? What does genuineness look like online as compared to in person?
Genuinely yours ~~~~~~~~ Angie Mc 😀