You know that small hearted person with little conscience who gets into a position of relative power and uses it to make your life miserable? Ya, That Guy…That Gal. Well, he was on the attack again, this time going after a dear friend of mine.
When watching movies, my nine-year-old son will say, “There’s The Good Guy, mom!” My friend is The Good Guy, literally. He will give you the baseball equipment out of his van. He will volunteer hours and hours to better his community. He is a son, husband, and father extraordinaire. He might as well wear all white and ride a white horse. That would make me laugh and he is very good at making me laugh.
So, That Guy happens to be my friend’s work supervisor. That Guy did some unethical stuff and tried to make my friend pay for it. My friend may even lose his job over the mess.
But here’s the kicker. My friend isn’t taking this personally.
My friend sees right through That Guy and is watching That Guy’s game unfold as if he was watching his Chicago Bears play against the Buffalo Bills on a nice Sunday. (Get ’em next time, Bears.)
My friend is able to not take the job shenanigans personally because he is a clear thinker. He thinks first (That Guy is out to hurt anyone in his path) therefore he doesn’t feel overly hurt beyond the usual initial sting of injustice. Because he doesn’t get dragged down by injured party emotions, however righteous, he is able to move forward swiftly, smartly, and with confidence to protect himself and fight back.
I’m inspired to check my own personalizing of big and small events and interactions. For example, when I’m not at my best I may read my husband’s short reply as impatience with me when actually he is distracted and thinking of a problem at work. Or I may be tempted to feel that my college-aged son has forgotten me, instead of empathizing with his new student status. (Aiden, call your mother!)
I’m rooting for my friend and all my friends, including you, who are facing That Guy. He counts on us to get all tangled up in our pain, confusion, anger, fear, or self-scrutiny. Not happening. We can get a step ahead of his toxic ways by not being derailed by emotion. We can use our confidence and desire for justice to think clearly. Clear thoughts will help provide the answers we need to address any difficult challenge.
That Guy, you messed with the wrong Good Guy.
Have you faced That Guy? How did you deal with him or her?
Hope your week is off to a strong start! ~~~~~~~~ Angie Mc